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Hi — I’m Sonjia Smith, LMFT, a Licensed Marriage and Family I’m Sonjia Smith, LMFT, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Specialized Crisis Counselor, and the founder of Therapy with Sonjia (formerly Couples Therapy with Sonjia).
Born and raised in Brooklyn, NY, my passion for mental health is deeply personal. As an African American, Christian, Queer Cisgender Woman, I bring a lived, compassionate perspective to my work — creating a space where high-achieving women of all backgrounds feel seen, supported, and deeply understood.

Throughout my career, I’ve worked with individuals, couples, and families navigating complex relationship and emotional challenges. But over time, I noticed a pattern: so many successful, ambitious women quietly carrying invisible wounds — the trauma, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and exhaustion that often go unnoticed beneath high achievement.

That’s where my heart led me.

Now, my work is centered on helping high-achieving women heal from childhood and relational trauma, release survival patterns that no longer serve them, and reconnect with the versions of themselves they’ve longed to be. I specialize in supporting those dealing with:
• Attachment wounds
• People-pleasing and boundary struggles
• Anxiety, anger, and emotional reactivity
• Histories of intimate partner violence
• Exhaustion from constantly holding it all together

I hold a Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Long Island University Brooklyn and have advanced training in trauma-informed care, crisis counseling, and relational healing.

My mission is simple: to help you feel safe enough to rest, seen enough to be honest, and supported enough to heal.

You don’t have to shrink or hustle for your worth anymore. You get to live a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.

My Approach as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

My Approach as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

My Approach

I integrate modern and postmodern therapy models to create a customized healing experience for each client. My training includes:

  • Solution-Focused Therapy (SFT)
  • Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT)
  • Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP)
  • Crisis De-escalation Strategies
  • EMDR

At the core of my work is a deep commitment to helping clients break free from unhealthy relationship patterns, heal from trauma, and reclaim emotional balance. Healing is possible, and you don’t have to do it alone.

Listen to Me, Lovely…

I know you’re tired.

Holding it all together, chasing success, and carrying the weight of old wounds no one else can see — it’s exhausting. And imagining a life where you’re not stuck in survival mode might feel impossible.

Some days you’re proud of your progress. You’re setting boundaries, speaking up, maybe even resting without guilt. Other days, it feels like you’ve slipped right back into old patterns. And you know what? That’s okay.

Healing isn’t a straight line.
It’s a series of quiet, brave moments — some light, some heavy, but all necessary.

You might believe healing means never getting triggered, never feeling anxious, never people-pleasing again. But real healing isn’t about becoming flawless. It’s about finally feeling safe enough to be your whole, messy, beautiful self.
And here’s what I need you to remember: You don’t have to earn your worth by achieving, performing, or pleasing. You are already enough. Every version of you — the strong, the soft, the hurting, the healing — belongs.

Take a deep breath.
You’re not broken.
You’re becoming.

And I’m rooting for you.

How a Family Therapist Can Help You Heal from Trauma

I am here to help!

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